Pastoral Care at RMS

Like you, we want your daughter to achieve her very best at RMS, but most importantly, we want her to be happy.

Here, your daughter will be considered as an individual, and she will be encouraged, nurtured and supported to surpass her expectations by dedicated and attentive teachers who really know and understand their pupils. The RMS culture promotes balance, self-esteem and confidence, and together we will recognise and harness your daughter's potential.

Excellent pastoral care is central to RMS's ethos; each pupil is supported by a network of adults and peers throughout her time at RMS to ensure that her time with us is as happy, as it is successful. In the Senior Department a team of Form Tutors led by a Head of Year oversee the pastoral care and  academic progress of the girls. In Cadogan House, the class teacher has overall responsibility for the girls in her care.

Help, advice and support are abundant  and may come from many sources. The Pastoral Team is central to coordinating the most effective support network to meet the needs of each individual girl, and it will monitor and communicate with all relevant parties. The team may draw support from teachers, housemistresses, the staff in the Health Centre, the Chaplain or our independent School Counsellor. Sixth Formers play a key role in mentoring younger girls, both academically and pastorally.  Sixth Form Prefects are attached to form groups allowing them to develop as mature individuals who care for others, while offering younger girls friendship and role models .

In addition to his role as a member of the Pastoral Team, the Chaplain offers guidance to pupils and staff across the School community on matters that are spiritual, moral, ethical or concerning the values that are so important to the School. These areas form the basis of his assemblies and other community events and the Chaplain also responds to individual requests for guidance.  The Chapel and the Sanctuary are available as quiet spaces for reflection, prayer or time out from the busy School day.

The House system further promotes a sense of community across year groups and fosters competition in a spirit of fun.

We know and value each and every one of our pupils, and their happiness and well being are of the utmost importance. We hope to imbue within them an awareness of the wider community and through charity fundraising and voluntary service, our girls learn to appreciate what they as individuals can do for others. RMS girls are educated to make a difference to the society and community around them.

Mrs Cathy Bomford
Pastoral Deputy Head

Heads of Year

The Heads of Year work closely with their tutorial team to make sure each girl is settled within her year and working to the best of her ability. The Heads of Year monitor progress, meet parents and attend to routine matters of discipline. They liaise regularly with Mrs Bomford, Pastoral Deputy Head.

Year 7 Miss H Stanley

Year 8 Miss S Baron

Year 9 Miss K Cook

Year 10 Miss J Simmonite

Year 11 Ms D Heaffey

School Counsellor

Any girl may have access to the School Counsellor, Mrs Nikki Bennett. Girls may consult the Counsellor discreetly and confidentially. The Counsellor discusses with each pupil who sees her, the contract of work. The Counsellor reports to Mrs Bomford weekly and will only disclose to her girls who may be at risk. All girls who see the Counsellor are encouraged by her to share their concerns with their families. Families will be informed if their daughter/ward is considered to be at risk of harm.
Mrs Bennett works with girls individually and in confidence to try to help with personal or school related problems. She is to be found in the Blue Room, in the Medical Centre, every Tuesday. Her telephone number is displayed in the boarding houses, school notice boards and on the door of her room. There is a box at the back of the New Mark Hall in which messages can be left. Appointments can also be made through Mrs Bomford or the Heads of Year.

Form Tutors

The Form Tutor is an important figure in every girl’s school life, seeing the form twice each day for registration. Girls are encouraged to discuss everyday concerns or more serious issues with their tutor.

School Chaplain

The Chaplain, the Reverend John Quill, is an important resource and girls know that the Chaplain will offer a sympathetic ear to them whatever their faith background. The Chaplain is available to talk to girls in the vestry at lunchtime by appointment.

Friendship Mediator

Miss Dines is trained as a friendship mediator and is very experienced in helping to sort out the friendship difficulties that girls often develop. Miss Dines empowers the girls to deal with the issues that face them so that they learn to be both assertive and empathetic with other girls.

The House System

The House system plays an important role in school life. Every term sees inter-House activities, sporting, creative and recreational as important events in the school calendar. House spirit is keen, but rivalry very friendly.

House Leaders

MOIRA - Mr Piqueiras and Miss Callow
SCARBROUGH - Mrs Beedell and Mrs Eccles
CUMBERLAND - Mrs Baron and Ms Joyce
ATHOLL SUSSEX - Mr Broome and Mrs  Booth 

The Health Centre

The nursing team provide health care for all RMS boarding pupils and first aid for day pupils. A qualified nurse is on duty between 7.30am and 4.30pm Monday to Friday and there is an emergency on call service for the boarding pupils at all other times during the school term.
Any girl feeling unwell should inform her supervising member of staff who will arrange for her to attend the Health Centre as necessary. The duty nurse will identify the necessary care/support and will, if necessary, contact the parents/guardians.
All full and weekly boarders are required to be registered at the Colne House practice and attend an initial routine consultation with the School Medical Officer (one of our local NHS doctors) which is part of the registration process.
With parental consent, new day pupils during their first year at RMS will attend a nurse led health screening clinic during which they will be weighed and measured, meet with the nursing team and discuss any medical issues highlighted on the medical admission documents.

Health Centre Information –

Mindfulness at RMS

What is mindfulness?

Jon Kabat-Zin reinvented ancient meditation practices for the modern secular age; the approach has increasing acclaim as a good thing. His definition of Mindfulness is that it is “The awareness that emerges through paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgementally, to the unfolding of experience moment to moment.”

A Brief History

The roots of Mindfulness lie in the ancient practice of meditation, often part of a religious, notably Buddhist, approach to life. Meditation can calm the mind and deal with Dukkha; this is often interpreted as suffering or, put another way, the stuff that happens that we have to get through and that can make us struggle and get anxious.

Mindfulness today

Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) was developed to assist people who suffer repeat episodes of depression and poor mental health; this is now recognised as a clinical intervention and approved in the UK by NICE (National Institute for Clinical Excellence).

Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) subsequently developed as an effective approach to the growing problem of stress and anxiety – preventative as well as curative – for everyone. This teaches us to

  • Pay attention
  • On purpose/with consciousness
  • In the present moment
  • With curiosity and kindness
  • To things as they are

Here are two lists – Mindfulness teaches us when and how to approach life from the list on the right instead of the default position represented by the list on the left. In summary we can shift from always thinking to learning to use our senses more: we can shift from frantic busyness to a calmer approach to life. See what you think:

Past & FuturePresent
Thoughts as FactsThoughts as Mental Events



Mindfulness here at RMS

A number of staff have completed the eight week Mindfulness programme, and Rev Quill has been trained to teach .b which is the programme for children aged 11 to 18; he has started to teach Year 8 and we intend to roll this out further when more staff are suitably experienced and qualified. Fourteen parents are undertaking an eight week programme here at school and we hope that others will follow.

If you would like to know more about Mindfulness generally and/or about what we are doing here please contact Rev Quill at jquill@royalmasonic.herts, And watch out for the possibility of another course for parents after Christmas. If you are interested already please contact Rev Quill now.

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